Love this "Ask Moxie" blog post...
Especially where she says:
"Whatever gets the maximum number of hours of sleep for the maximum number of people in your household, that's what you should do. And when anyone asks you how your baby's sleeping, just lie and say everything's great."
She also says something somewhere about how you just have to learn...does your baby cry to release tension or does crying build tension in your baby? That could help you figure out what sleep strategy you'll try with yours!